Thursday, November 19, 2009

I Believe in Adoption

I believe adoption changes lives, because I think my life would be totally different if I was not adopted.
I was adopted when I was ten years old. Since then my life was good. I have graduated from high school, played in sports, and gotten awards. I have stayed away from drugs, and I'm going to college.
I want to do my best to be successful in my life and not let any thing stand in my way. I was in and out of foster care with two different families from when I two years old until I was six years old. Then I went to live with my real mother when I was six years old. my real mothers husband at the time Marshall was abusive to us kids, and he was always drunk. He used to lock us in closets, pushed us down stairs and slamming us in door. My mom said he only did this when he was drunk. but that is no excuse to lay a child or anyone for that matter.
Because I was scared of him, I spent a lot of time hiding boxes or staying in my room. I had this cat named Caramel. She seemed to me to be a safety blanket for me or just made me feel safe. But then I had to get rid of her because my mom was allergic to her. I was really heartbroken that I had to get rid of her. When I was eight years old my mom, Marshall and us kids left East Lansing and we end up at a campground in Texas. One morning when we woke up and our mom was gone. Social Service in Texas took us to an orphanage and my mom lost custody, and we were waiting to be put in a foster family. There I had met this girl who never got adopted. She was seventeen qt the time and only had a month to go before she turned eighteen, and she had been there all her life. She never had the opportunity to have a loving family of her own. After a few months we were placed in foster care and my bothers and I lived in Texas for two years. Then after two years living in Texas with two different families we came back to Michigan with our Social worker, and we came to live with the Bishop family.
The Bishop family, who had been our foster family when we were younger, hard about us, and they wanted to adopt my brothers and me. So we flew back to Michigan with our Social worker to live with the Bishop family. The Bishop family treated us differently and loved us like their own children. They were involved in all of or school activities and went to all of our graduations. When I started college my mom and dad were proud of me. Adoption was good for me, and I hope other children in foster care get the same opportunity to grow up in a loving family. I believe if I had lived with my real parents my life would be different. I would have possibly have started smoking, drinking, using drugs, or even gotten pregnant at a young age like sixteen. The Bishop family set good examples. they don't use drugs, and they do not drink. by that I have stayed away from drugs, but I do drink a beer at night but I also have been careful that my drinking dose not control my life. In summary, I believe in a adoption because I think all children have the right to grow up in a loving and safe environment. All children need a family that they can call their own even when they get older. For me it gave me the opportunity for a future I can make for myself that I can call my own, and i am glad I had the change to grow up in a family that is a loving and caring family.

2 comments:

  1. Joy, I have been reading alot of your blogs. I just hope that someday my daughter does the same thing that you are doing. I miss her very much and thhink of her often. I am proud of you for your accomplishments and don't ever give up on your dreams.

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  2. Hey joy, sorry that you were tossed around like that. but look at you now, youv'e made something of your self. good luck. dollie

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