I Believe in Adoption

I believe adoption changes lives, because I think my life would be totally different if I was not adopted.
I was adopted when I was ten years old. Since then my life was good. I have graduated from high school, played in sports, and gotten awards. I have stayed away from drugs, and I'm going to college.
I want to do my best to be successful in my life and not let any thing stand in my way. I was in and out of foster care with two different families from when I two years old until I was six years old. Then I went to live with my real mother when I was six years old. my real mothers husband at the time Marshall was abusive to us kids, and he was always drunk. He used to lock us in closets, pushed us down stairs and slamming us in door. My mom said he only did this when he was drunk. but that is no excuse to lay a child or anyone for that matter.
Because I was scared of him, I spent a lot of time hiding boxes or staying in my room. I had this cat named Caramel. She seemed to me to be a safety blanket for me or just made me feel safe. But then I had to get rid of her because my mom was allergic to her. I was really heartbroken that I had to get rid of her. When I was eight years old my mom, Marshall and us kids left East Lansing and we end up at a campground in Texas. One morning when we woke up and our mom was gone. Social Service in Texas took us to an orphanage and my mom lost custody, and we were waiting to be put in a foster family. There I had met this girl who never got adopted. She was seventeen qt the time and only had a month to go before she turned eighteen, and she had been there all her life. She never had the opportunity to have a loving family of her own. After a few months we were placed in foster care and my bothers and I lived in Texas for two years. Then after two years living in Texas with two different families we came back to Michigan with our Social worker, and we came to live with the Bishop family.
The Bishop family, who had been our foster family when we were younger, hard about us, and they wanted to adopt my brothers and me. So we flew back to Michigan with our Social worker to live with the Bishop family. The Bishop family treated us differently and loved us like their own children. They were involved in all of or school activities and went to all of our graduations. When I started college my mom and dad were proud of me. Adoption was good for me, and I hope other children in foster care get the same opportunity to grow up in a loving family. I believe if I had lived with my real parents my life would be different. I would have possibly have started smoking, drinking, using drugs, or even gotten pregnant at a young age like sixteen. The Bishop family set good examples. they don't use drugs, and they do not drink. by that I have stayed away from drugs, but I do drink a beer at night but I also have been careful that my drinking dose not control my life. In summary, I believe in a adoption because I think all children have the right to grow up in a loving and safe environment. All children need a family that they can call their own even when they get older. For me it gave me the opportunity for a future I can make for myself that I can call my own, and i am glad I had the change to grow up in a family that is a loving and caring family.

Forgivness

I was hoping one day as I was growing up that my mom would find us and also my dad. When I fifteen I always wondered what It would be like if they did find us or how my adopted parents would feel if they did. Because I never really hated them as I was growing up no matter what had happened in the past I still love them. Even though my adopted mom was hurt when I do not feel that I should hold grudge against mother and or even my dad. I hard that you have to forgive and forgot beside the future is all matter or now or future is up to us.
But there is only one person that I feel that I can't forgive is my mom ex. husband Marshall. because of what he has done and other things that is unthinkable that you would do to a child. I am not really going say to much about what had happened because its to painful to think about. How do you forgive someone who has done horrible thing to you, and someone you want nothing to do with? But I'm glad my mom finally left him for good.
When my mom found us she said that she only went to the store and didn't leave us there for very long. But when I was growing up I had been told so many stories that I don't know what to really believe. Should I believe my real mom or should I believe the stories that I had been told, while I was growing up. these are the things that I have thought about growing up so how could I possible stay mad at her? So when she did find us I was ok with it the fact that she did found us. I even had a dream that she had found us when I was about sixteen years old and know it happened that she did. I guess I have always want her to be part of my life and the same for my dad. My dad will always be in my heart even though he is gone but I'll always love him.

When my mom showed up that day I was kinda shocked at first because I have not seen her in eighteen years. after a while I was okay with her being in my life because it seemed to me that she has her life together. When I saw her for the first time it didn't bother me I just visited with her and we just talked about things or what we up to for the last eighteen years. My mom used to have long brown hair, blue eyes, and she was skinny and she is about five feet five inches. But now she has short hair and a little billy on her. But I look more like my father but only I'm a girlie girl but I really look like my mom at all. I didn't think my mom was a bad mom at all I just think she made some bad choices in life and ended up with the wrong men like my sisters dad. My dad on the other hand the reason why she left him was because he was lazy and was not making in effort to get a job. so this what I was told because I was only one years old at the time my mom left my dad. about five years later she married my sisters dad but that lasted only for two years because he was abusive towards my brothers and me. I don't think my mom was a bad mom she just didn't make very good choices in life. I am glad she has changed her life after she lost us kids and now she is married to a great guy. His name is Manny I really like him and I wish she had meet him to begin with because he is perfect.

My Life

but as far as my real mother the last time I know she lived in Flagstaff Arizona. After eighteen years my real mother found us three kids over the internet. when she had meet up with us my adopted mom was a little hurt. she was afraid that we might go and live with her but I never wanted to go live with my real mother. why would I after she had abandon us four kids at a campground in Taxes so I never thought twice about living with her. before I was adopted my real father wanted me back but the courts told him no. so after that he gave up everything because with out us he probably felt he had nothing left to live for. deep down I know that he had loved me because if he didn't he wound of not of wanted me back in the first place.

Too Late

However I have found my real father but I was a week too late. He had passed away before I had the chance to meet him. I did talk to my grandma. She told me that he had given up because the courts told him he had no children but he knew the truth. At first I didn't know how to feel because I didn't know him. I just knew his full name. But after awhile I felt sad because there was stuff I wish I could have told him like that I loved him and I was never mad at him for any reason. I also felt bad for my father because he never had chance to raise my brother and I. Like my real mother she had two chances to raise us kids and it didn't work out. I can not imagine not having a chance to raise my children or even someone telling me that I don't have any kids when I know I do. Especially for guys who wants to raise there children.

Hello my name is Joy and this blog is about adoption. I know allot about adoption because I was in and out of foster care sense I was two years old.It started with my real mother she was mentally sick and could not take care of us at the time. before I was adopted my real father wanted me back but the courts told him no and my mom rights were given up. The Bishop family adopted me when I was ten years old. when I was going to school in Fife lake I was very shy and really didn't hang out with anyone because I was afraid to make friends. At the time I was not sure if I was going to stay for every long because I didn't know that adoption meant forever and that I had a new family. I have a half sister who went back too her real dad but she end up in foster care to because her dad was abusive. thought the years I recently learned that I have other half brothers and sisters that I have not meet that my dad had with his second wife and I hoping to find them.